Wednesday, January 26, 2011

What No One Tells the Bride

An essential read. I studied a copy of it right after the wedding. I just re-borrowed it from the library. I've been married for a year now. The book says it takes an average of two years for a new bride to understand her place and identity in the marriage. I wish I had read it before I freaked out about the subtleties that appear fresh after the honeymoon plane landing. If no other benefit, its serves to throw at your husband if he wants to you wear skanky pj's when he insists that the AC should be at 71 degrees.











“It should be required reading for every bride.”
-  John Gray, author of
Men Are From Mars,
Women Are From Venus
 

"What No One Tells the Bride" is the inside scoop – good and bad – on what it’s really like being married.

In the pages of this perennial bestseller, journalist Marg Stark breaks the newlywed code of silence and exposes the profound adjustments brides often experience.

Stark and 50 newly married women tell their stories – showing others how to handle turbulence on cloud nine – and reveal marital truths, such as:



  • You don’t feel like a “Mrs.” Sometimes you even dream about old flames.

  • You write all the wedding gift thank-you notes.  So are you doomed to your mother’s life – 60 years of doing more than your share?

  • Making love is the last thing on your mind when you have the flu and haven’t showered for days.  But he still wants to.

  • You tell him you got these incredible bargains and quietly resent having to justify your spending.

  • You have shining moments when marriage feels absolutely right, but nevertheless you pine for something more.


Humorous and compassionate – with advice from marriage counselors, ministers, financial advisors, and sex therapists – What No One Tells the Bride is not only a practical guide for every newly married woman, it also makes the perfect wedding shower gift.

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/078688262X/qid=1104999106/sr=1-1/ref=sr_1_1/104-3440821-8143117?v=glance&s=books




Read it, buy it as I will when finances pick back up (newlyweds can often be broke). And then go yell at your mother, "WHY DIDN'T YOU WARN ME?"